“It is imperative to find someone who chooses us and acknowledges our many layers, who can be open and vulnerable, and most importantly, who is ready.
To meet someone and be met.
To be chosen and to choose.
To love and to be loved.
This is everything.
All we need is that same energy reciprocated, and despite how open and loving you attempt to be, people can only meet you as deeply as they have met themselves.
Don’t be afraid to be the one that loved the most and give everything you had, because you’ve got to find people who love like you do and who are ready.”
I don’t have any words of my own, and I don’t know that I will for a long time. But I read this quote weeks ago and came back to it for the reassurance that the ones who love the hardest are not making a mistake. And maybe it doesn’t make you foolish to give everything you have, it just makes you hopeful. And honest. And alive.
But her words about being ready make me wonder if anyone ever is. If we truly knew what it took to be ready for the scariest and most intimate things, I don’t know that we would ever try. Maybe it’s less about being ready and more about showing up anyways. Maybe doing something even when you’re scared means more than doing it when you’re ready. Because you might just never get there.